Flower vs Gardener

In a realtionship are you a FLOWER or a GARDENER??

I stumbled upon this question when I was watching TV last night, and I thought it was quite interesting.

So, which one am I? Flower is the one being taken care of in a relationship, more of a taker. Gardener is the one taking care of the other person, a giver.

It's hard to be just one and not the other in a relationship because it's not equal, and it's quite selfish and unfair. But in my next relationship, I definitely want to be the FLOWER (in the beginning :p) . I've realised that I have been the gardener in all my past relationships, it's about time to be the flower.

All I've done in the past is give, give and give. I've never asked anything in return, and I know my ex's never asked anything of me. Think it's just a personality thing to give. I get it from mom. To give, requires an understanding, open heart and mind. I'm going to be honest and say that I've become too selfish to be a giver in a relationship. It's just not worth it to give to a guy who's not up to par. What for right?!

What about if someone cheats on you, do you break up and let the relationship go? Or do you hang on and hope that person won't repeat the same offence? I was reading the newspaper yesterday, and in the gossip section. A star has just broken up with her husband of ten years because he cheated on her...It wasn't the first time.
This is my motto: Once a cheater always a cheater!
Why do people cheat in the first place? For the fun and excitement that it brings? Or that humans are not just trustworthy enough?

Trust...what does it mean? Life...what's it all about?

We are the only living thing that kill each other for the sake of killing one another. It's not a survival tact. Sometimes it's just a random act.
Currently in Japan, there has been many incidents with high school students stabbing their peers and parents. It's been brought to the prefectural attention, and they've introduced a new program called "The importance of Life" to the kids at school. How important is your life? How much do you value life? Anyways, just my random rambling on a Friday morning.